Are you in the middle of a drama? Smart tips to play it cool
Follow these tips to stay in control and keep your power in times of a crisis.
When everyone is making a hue and cry about a topic, it’s very easy to want to lend your voice — especially if it is about you. But, resist the urge to air your dirty linen in public, keep your mouth shut and opinions and facts to yourself. When there is a lot of drama, emotions run high and speculation even more so. Anything you say could be taken out of context and could actually add more flame to the fire, which is not helping your cause. When the drama is at the highest, you have to keep the lowest profile.
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Back and forth
There are always two sides to the story and chances are you’re going to hear about a dozen more. Don’t believe everything you hear or read. Since everyone is voicing their opinion, facts can get lost in translation, stories could be embellished for added effect and tone gets distorted from one person to the next. Listen to it if it you must, but don’t form your own thoughts based on all the external noise.
If you find yourself in the middle of a highly emotional or dramatic situation, break it down. Fix a private talk with the person at loggerheads with you. This will help you get away from all the external factors and outside noise. Simplify the equation with just the both of you and address the matter in a private manner. However, don’t expect it all to go smoothly. Be prepared to clear up misconceptions, put a lid on rumours and even share the details you were not planning on. And while it’s good to keep the meeting small, it helps to have a third party as mediator in case things sour. The unbiased third party can sometimes help it from turning into an ugly blame game.
Close to your chest
While it may be tempting to explain yourself to anyone who is willing to lend a ear, it is not a good idea. Limit your discussions about the topic to your close circle of friends, a trusted colleague or spouse, depending on the situation. The more people you speak to about this topic, the more fodder you’re sending off into the world. It’s best to avoid the temptation to talk and keep the matter close to your chest.
Thankfully, even the juiciest bit of information has a shelf life. So, when you think the drama has died down, you have two choices. Put out what you need to say or let it die a natural death. Setting the record straight once the initial hoopla is over and after you’ve spoken to the other parties involved, is a good way to clear the air and keep your record clean. However, if you feel the matter is not worth validating, then by all means, let sleeping dogs lie.