Hey men! 5 ways to handle yourself when your best friend falls in love
He's your wingman and best bud. But what happens when he meets The One? ETPanache tells you 5 ways to handle yourself when your bromance is threatened.
1. Accept it
After years of the two of you exchanging disastrous dating stories, he's finally found someone he wants to hang on to. And hang out with. Don't take this as a rejection of your friendship. Applaud yourself for being a successful wingman. Give them both some time. But if he's not contacted you in more than three months, you have permission to pick up the phone and swear till the air turns blue.
2. Other pals
Letting your best bud off the hook means that you get to hang out with your other friends. They may not be as much fun, but meeting new people is a must. Who knows, widening your circle of friends could mean that you get to meet The One too. But, beware of falling into the trap of one-upmanship. Just because your buddy has found someone, doesn't mean that you miraculously do too.
3. Meet and greet
When you meet her, don't tell her to stop hogging your pal. Prepare yourself for the fact that even if the three of you hang out, it feels like you're intruding. They will be all over each other and won't give you a second glance during this "meeting my best friend" dinner. Instead of spending the evening imagining yourself strangling them with linguini, take another friend along. You'll have someone to talk to when the dinner turns not so PG 13.
4. The pity invite
Watch out for this. When your best friend gets booked, he's going to spend most weekends with her. All you'll get is a pity lunch invite out of his guilt of abandoning you. Do not accept it. Call him out on this and say that while you understand he's busy, he should not feel pressure to meet you unless he really wants to hang out. No need to trivialise your friendship out of guilt.
5. Don't bad mouth her
No matter how much you want to blame the new woman in your friend's life, you know it's not her fault. Don't bad mouth her to your other friends. If word gets around, it can destroy your friendship forever. Make it a point to get to know her. Trust us, after the honeymoon period is over, you will be able you hang out with your best friend again, even with his plus one, who you will happily like to call a friend.