Is your ex a friend or a foe? Take this quiz to find out
Whether you're dumped or the one doing the dumping, take our quiz to find out how to move forward.
So whether you were dumped or the dumpee, check to see whether you and your ex can still be friends or whether it's best to just make a clean break:
Let's cut to the chase, do you still have feelings for your ex?
a) No — just friendly feelings.
b) Yes — I sometimes wish we were still together.
You've just found out that your ex is seeing someone new. How does that make you feel?
a) Alright — I am glad she is dating again.
b) A bit lost and shattered. I didn't expect it to happen so soon.
Can you talk to your ex about shared memories and activities you did as a couple?
a) A few, but obviously not all the activities.
b) No, it's too hard to think about those times.
Are you and your ex connected by common friends or work?
b) Not really.
Now that you have broken up with your ex, how do you feel?
a) Disappointed but ultimately fine.
b) Shattered and disbelieving.
Your ex calls you up in tears over a fight with her best friend. What do you do?
a) Talk to her on the phone and try to help out.
b) Rush over with takeaway and a box of tissues.
Appropriate distance, good conversation and knowing your boundaries shows that yes, you can be friends with your ex. It's clear that you have no more romantic feelings for her and if you do work or socialise together, then excluding the initial awkwardness, staying friends will not seem like such a big deal. Just make sure your ex is on the same page so that she is not led on by your friendship.
You're not ready to be friends with your ex, but you are certainly ready to swoop in when she is low. Not being able to talk about your shared past, being readily available for her and being sad when she moves on shows that you are still lingering on. While eventually you may be able to maintain a friendship, now you need to make a clean break and limit your contact.